Balancing Work and Family: Life's Juggling Act
by Life@Work
Balance: Knowing God. Managing a family.
Being involved in church. Working for a
company/organization. Making time for self.
All of these activities require a broad
understanding of diverse but critical
components, an intense focus on the specifics
at hand, and an acute ability to prioritize
and act in appropriate ways.
Much of the world describes this as
balance. Other words might be more
appropriate—integration or rhythm, for
instance.
Many people work from an incorrect
definition of balance, a hierarchical view
that involves ranking priorities: God first,
then family, church, work, and leisure. While
some areas of our life, like God and family,
are most important to us, a hierarchical view
forces people to segment their lives and focus
on one aspect at a time. A better
understanding of balance is the ability to
continually recognize and simultaneously
juggle the multidimensional assignments and
opportunities of life.
An assignment is something that we have no
control over or that we cannot say "no" to
without violating a scriptural command or
principle. However, we can choose to accept or
reject opportunities.
Ways to tell the difference between
assignments and opportunities include prayer,
meditation with God, Bible study, paying
attention to life's circumstances, and
examining how a new opportunity will impact
other assignments.
Sticking to assignments often means
accepting God's direction for our lives over
selfish desires. Rather than shifting blame
when we are out of balance, it is helpful to
assess our current problems and what we've
done about them. It's a lifestyle change to
move from burnout to balance, and you have to
count the cost.
Balance is not a static issue. It can
change as circumstances change. This includes
various seasons of life (e.g., marriage, new
job, first child, first home, etc.).
The ability to recognize our state of
balance or imbalance is crucial. People don't
always know when they're out of balance—it's
not instinctive or inherent. In fact, juggling
isn't a skill people are born with either—it's
an art that is learned.
The five dimensions of life that every
follower of Christ is responsible for juggling
are family, community, church, work, and
self.
While we're called to be accountable to
other believers, what balance looks like in
our lives is different than others' lives—it
is intensely personal and something for which
we alone must answer.
Inside certain biblical boundaries, we are
left to figure many things out on our own.
Without a dynamic, growing relationship with
Christ, we run the risk of falling victim to
legalism or a non-Spirit-led self-sufficiency
where we fool ourselves into thinking we have
everything figured out and under control.
Companies that offer bonuses, stock
options, prize trips, and pizza parties
sometimes are compensating for the imbalance
they demand—for work that is meaningless or
working relationships that force the person to
be less than he or she can be. Even in
much-touted people-companies and
organizations, workers can feel overwhelmed
and out of balance.
Creating a work environment that promotes
balanced living requires that companies place
a strong emphasis on character and integrity,
and that they treat people with respect and
care for them as individuals.
Creating a home environment that promotes
balanced living requires the marriage as the
foundation of the family, and a clearly
spelled out—even scheduled—understanding of
each family's unique assignments and
opportunities.
It might be impossible to integrate our
lives through balance (which assumes the
possibility of being in control), but we can
live rhythmically—being flexible to the ebb
and flow of how our assignments intersect each
other. "The interesting thing between the
managing of our time in our culture by
schedule, as opposed to the ancient way of
rhythm, is that you can destroy a schedule but
you can't [destroy] a rhythm."—Eugene Peterson
The only balance you can maintain is to
love God, then love your neighbor more than
yourself. In this sense, then, balance is
defined as having a right relationship with
God, as you tackle the assignments he has
given you.
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